Comments on: The Happiest Toddler on the Block, by Harvey Karp http://boydsnest.org/news/2008/the-happiest-toddler-on-the-block-by-harvey-karp/ All Boyds, all the time. Fri, 04 May 2012 20:07:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Kelli http://boydsnest.org/news/2008/the-happiest-toddler-on-the-block-by-harvey-karp/comment-page-1/#comment-5442 Kelli Fri, 18 Jul 2008 17:48:37 +0000 http://boydsnest.org/news/?p=2001#comment-5442 Thanks Ann! (and Allie and Nicole) It took me a while to get here to see this answer but it's not been long enough that I no longer need these tips! :) As a follow up to my initial question, we started ignoring Eli when he "threatened" to drop his food on the floor (as I had recently heard from a source - babycenter.com? - that toddlers love a reaction and any attention they can get). A couple meal times of that and it's no longer an issue. Food still gets on the floor but it's not a deliberate act of rebellion/power struggle. :) We are glad of that! Also, Eli's first real revelation and acceptance of discipline has happened during bath time. He LOVES the bathtub and is constantly trying to stand up and reach the faucet and knobs. Once he stands up (clearly against house rules) I say, "uh-oh, all done!" and quickly extract him from the tub. The first couple times that happened he threw a big fit but now when I send out a warning "sit down" as he starts to stand, he quickly sits down. Even the other day when he stood completely up and bath time was over there was no crying or protesting. I took it to mean that he understood what he had done and was accepting the consequence. I've also noticed that he is much more likely to stand up in the tub absentmindedly when he's more tired. So we try to get bath time in before he reaches that point of mental exhaustion and distraction. So, long comment, but wanted to let you know that things are starting to turn around here, though I will look up these two books at the library for near future discipline situations. Thanks, again! P.S. Just read the comments left after my question and apologize for not checking there earlier! Grandpa is right! - a wealth of information! As I read the comments I began to recall places/things in the house that Eli loves to get into but is not allowed (i.e. the toilet). I think for these situations, I will start trying the timeout to see how it goes. We already have a place in mind. :) Thanks Ann! (and Allie and Nicole) It took me a while to get here to see this answer but it’s not been long enough that I no longer need these tips! :) As a follow up to my initial question, we started ignoring Eli when he “threatened” to drop his food on the floor (as I had recently heard from a source – babycenter.com? – that toddlers love a reaction and any attention they can get). A couple meal times of that and it’s no longer an issue. Food still gets on the floor but it’s not a deliberate act of rebellion/power struggle. :) We are glad of that! Also, Eli’s first real revelation and acceptance of discipline has happened during bath time. He LOVES the bathtub and is constantly trying to stand up and reach the faucet and knobs. Once he stands up (clearly against house rules) I say, “uh-oh, all done!” and quickly extract him from the tub. The first couple times that happened he threw a big fit but now when I send out a warning “sit down” as he starts to stand, he quickly sits down. Even the other day when he stood completely up and bath time was over there was no crying or protesting. I took it to mean that he understood what he had done and was accepting the consequence. I’ve also noticed that he is much more likely to stand up in the tub absentmindedly when he’s more tired. So we try to get bath time in before he reaches that point of mental exhaustion and distraction.

So, long comment, but wanted to let you know that things are starting to turn around here, though I will look up these two books at the library for near future discipline situations. Thanks, again!

P.S. Just read the comments left after my question and apologize for not checking there earlier! Grandpa is right! – a wealth of information! As I read the comments I began to recall places/things in the house that Eli loves to get into but is not allowed (i.e. the toilet). I think for these situations, I will start trying the timeout to see how it goes. We already have a place in mind. :)

]]> By: Nicole Wetzel http://boydsnest.org/news/2008/the-happiest-toddler-on-the-block-by-harvey-karp/comment-page-1/#comment-5383 Nicole Wetzel Tue, 24 Jun 2008 21:46:11 +0000 http://boydsnest.org/news/?p=2001#comment-5383 1-2-3- Magic comes in a DVD form as well if you want to free up the reading, for lets say Jane Austen! I too found them helpful. 1-2-3- Magic comes in a DVD form as well if you want to free up the reading, for lets say Jane Austen! I too found them helpful.

]]> By: Ann Boyd http://boydsnest.org/news/2008/the-happiest-toddler-on-the-block-by-harvey-karp/comment-page-1/#comment-5376 Ann Boyd Sun, 22 Jun 2008 17:57:16 +0000 http://boydsnest.org/news/?p=2001#comment-5376 I am *so* going to get that from the library! I would love to say "no" a bit less around here. Thanks for the recommendation! I am so going to get that from the library! I would love to say “no” a bit less around here. Thanks for the recommendation!

]]> By: allie b. http://boydsnest.org/news/2008/the-happiest-toddler-on-the-block-by-harvey-karp/comment-page-1/#comment-5374 allie b. Sat, 21 Jun 2008 18:45:05 +0000 http://boydsnest.org/news/?p=2001#comment-5374 The toddler discipline book I've deemed my favorite in my years of nannying is 1,2,3... Magic! Bad title, but it seriously works. It eliminates having to argue/reason with a little person who often cannot be reasoned with. It also sets it up so you (the adult) are not saying "no" constantly. Works for kids 2-12! It's Magic! The toddler discipline book I’ve deemed my favorite in my years of nannying is 1,2,3… Magic! Bad title, but it seriously works. It eliminates having to argue/reason with a little person who often cannot be reasoned with. It also sets it up so you (the adult) are not saying “no” constantly. Works for kids 2-12! It’s Magic!

]]> By: Tysa http://boydsnest.org/news/2008/the-happiest-toddler-on-the-block-by-harvey-karp/comment-page-1/#comment-5369 Tysa Fri, 20 Jun 2008 18:56:00 +0000 http://boydsnest.org/news/?p=2001#comment-5369 Yep our little cavemen and women! That's a great way to think of their growing abilities. And since Mo thoroughly enjoys grabbing and pulling his sissy's hair, it's not too hard to imagine. Yep our little cavemen and women! That’s a great way to think of their growing abilities. And since Mo thoroughly enjoys grabbing and pulling his sissy’s hair, it’s not too hard to imagine.

]]>